Handling frustrations

We encounter disappointments and frustrations almost on a daily basis dont we? if not big ones then its the wee ones that crop up here and there. it can certainly wear us down if we allow it to. not getting what we want, being thwarted in our efforts, facing opposition, rejection, broken promises... 1001 things. a sure way to the looneybin if we dont acquire some sorta skill at handling the frustration & anger. its usually the small, seemingly inconsequential problems left unattended that breaks a man, not a major upheaval as it would seem to be...... thats actually just the tip of the iceberg.

Sometimes its quite an effort to stay positive & ceria right? so much easier to remain grumpy or morose while we wait for life to right itself or somebody to come along and make it better. weell, it'd probably turn out to be a looooooong wait indeed !! over the years (and they are many lol) i've accepted the fact you just gotta make your own sunshine.

I used to merajuk sakan when the hubby forgot anniversaries & stuff (as he's most prone to do) taking it as a measure of his love & devotion (or lack of). then i thought hell, we're still happily married despite the lapses of memory lol so why waste time & energy on being frustrated (penat tau merajuk2 ni, bukan org layan sangat pun kan). now i just ask him what his plans are for the two of us a day before anniversaries or birthdays (just as though there never was the possibility of him ever forgetting in the first place) and it has worked fine *huge grin*

Like what happened yesterday. i was all set to sweat it out but events just seemed to conspire against me.... i just couldnt slot in any running !!!! see, i usually fast mondays & thursdays so i rest on mondays, do some threadmill work on tuesdays and thursdays, while wednesdays & the weekends i reserve for runs at the tasik. i had my 'sweat bag' all packed (towels, tops, bottoms, shoes, water, etc) and while i was patiently waiting for the 'lagu punch card' to signal the end of another working day, word came in that my son, who was on a school trip to Pusat Atom Negara and expected to arrive at 3 pm, was delayed and would be arriving at 5.30 pm instead. okaaay..... since i was supposed to pick him up, that meant i could forget about the gym coz all the threadmills were usually taken by then. fine, i'm a flexi person, theres always the tasik to fall back to. in comes another sms from said son.... the school buses (2 full loads) were trapped in a terrible jam and they'd probably only reach shah alam by 6 pm. hmmm.... i'd still have an hour before azan maghrib or so i thought lol but by the time the buses arrived, i was just too pooped by all that waiting to consider anything even mildly exacting as getting out of the car (all that sitting had made my poor butt kinda sore lol).

Ok, so i put yesterday behind me and woke up this morning all hyped up and raring to go.... after i drop the kiddo off to school i was going to have a quick run round the tasik before i faced the piles of paperwork. yeah right !!!!! i didnt realise until a little later that it was going to be one of those days !!!!! i rushed him off to school, realised i didnt have my office pass with me, turned back home with wheels a squealing (sorta lol) and taaa daa... the hubby's still home, standing by his car looking awesomely disgruntled !! it was then that i knew i might just as well kiss my run goodbye.

It turn out, in his hurry to get the auto gates open while reversing (probably had an early morning appointment or something), he'd somehow managed to bang the car door against one of the columns at the porch. and being the 'grumpy baby' that he was he just couldnt shake away his anger and frustration for being so careless that easily (even got pretty mad at the column for being there lol). well, what can you do when somebody so obviously needs you ?!! i did what any wife worth her salt would have done (like theres a choice ?!!? hehehe) ..... stayed with my man, postponed my run till later and.... ended up late for work myself. *sigh* the things you do for love !!

Anyway, thats life for you.... we just hang on and try to manage as best we can ;)