Strong emotions

.. can be destructive but when harnessed properly can generate a world of good.

Eh bunyi macam something from x-men plak ek. mutants learning to control and utilise their powers to their best advantage. tersangat la sci-fi je bunyinya..... tapi sebenarnya kita pun camtu gak skit2. strong feelings and emotions usually arise from a deep concern over the things we care about. kalau kita tak ambil peduli kita biarkan aje kan. and to be passionate about something is to be alive.

Really?

Yes, really.

Kalau kita terlalu 'tak kisah' semuanya akan menjadi hambar, nothing to really push us out of our comfort zones. terlalu comfortable nanti jadi macam kucing kena kasi plak.

So, if you're angry about something or jealous about something... its not necessarily a bad thing. in fact i read somewhere that "to not feel entirely sure of 'possessing' someone or something is what keeps desire alive". you just hafta teach yourself a little restrain, a little balance so that the strong feelings doesnt cloud your mind or your judgement. its a skill worth cultivating, even if it takes your whole lifetime. i'm still at it myself -_-

I was discussing it with the kids the other day. its normal to have jealous bfs & gfs... romantic jealousy is a common emotion when you love someone. freud said something like " if a person doesnt experience jealousy when an important relationship is threatened, something is not altogether right. it is akin to not feeling grief when someone you care deeply about dies. such a response most probably means that the person is working hard to supress jealousy and hiding it from self and others".

Also "jealousy is motivated by the need to protect a valued relationship".

Jadi bagus la kan when a bf or gf jeles sebab it only means they place a certain value to the relationship. all they want to do is to protect it from potential threat usually in the form of other people. tapi i understand, sikit2 takpe, yang tak larat tu is when it gets disturbingly out of hand sampai rasa lemas & rimas. we've all experienced jealousy at some point in our lives but its especially strong with young people. mungkin kerana orang muda masih kurang pengalaman dalam menangani masalah kehidupan terutama yang berkisar sekitar hati & perasaan.

Whatever the cause may be, we cant let jealousy consume us. it can get out of hand and many a case of violent abuse finds its roots in jealousy. how can we hurt the very people we profess to love? so, take a step back, reexamine our reaction and reestablish our feelings of love & affection. apapun dalam hidup kita ni, biarlah berpada-pada.

Its all about coping, about finding a way that works best for us. talking things out usually works tapi feelings must first be brought under control... kalau idak akhirnya kelahi jugak.

Dont let jealousy kill the love that's been tended to so carefully. rugi..... especially when its groundless.