Stop the rumours

The Triple Filter test

One day a man came to a Muslim scholar and said, "Do you know what I just heard about your friend?"

"Hold on a minute," the scholar replied. "Before telling me anything I'd like you to pass a little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test."

"Triple filter?"

"That's right," the scholar continued. "Before you talk to me about my friend it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. That's why I call it the triple filter test.

The first is the filter of Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell me is true?"

"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and..."

"All right," said the scholar. "So you don't really know if it's true or not.

Now let's try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about my friend something good?"

"No, on the contrary......"

"So," the scholar continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, but you're not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter left: the filter of Usefulness.

Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to be useful to me?"

"No, not really."

"Well," concluded the scholar, "if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good nor even useful, why tell it to me at all?"

i must remind myself of this more often.

kalau tak betul dah jatuh fitnah (berat tu) and theres just no end to mengumpat (equally berat). i really should open my mouth only when absolutely necessary but its a hard thing to do especially bila tengah galak bergebang. tapi....... kerana mulut badan binasa so ganbatte RK!!! *pressing lips firmly together (ouch kebas la pulok hehehe)*