Crossing the line

Guiding kids towards becoming responsible and compassionate adults can be a pretty heavy undertaking, especially zaman milineum ni.

We can only hope that whatever values we've tried to impart to them has reached its mark because without strength of character (even the shadow of one) navigating their way thru the labyrinths of life can be wrought with pain & heartache. yes we learn from our mistakes but making too many mistakes while we're still young can break instead of make a person. especially when they are surrounded by people who are too busy being judgemental to realise a guiding hand would usually be more effective... we lose so many windows of opportunity to turn a mistake or an incident into a learning experience that way.

Sunday AH went out on a group date. it was all above board and i was the one carting the kids around. drop-off at sunway pyramid was around 12 noon and pick-up was around 5.30 giving ample time for the kids to be safely home before maghrib. AH and me have always practised an open line of communication and she knows so long as she's straight with me i'd allow her certain liberties suitable for a teenager (and all within reason of course).

My mistake was assuming the other kids would be doing the same. rupanya during that excursion one of AH's friends was out with her bf without her parent's permission!!! and of course since i was the one sending them i was also supposed to know what was going on... yeah right!!! to me all i was providing was a safe passage for the children, the rest is up to the parents. all hell broke lose the next day when the young 'couple' was caught smooching in a female toilet somewhere near the girl's condo. one of the guards was alert enough to notice and to cut a long story short, the bf was dragged off to face an extremely pissed father & brother.

Suffice to say he'd been warned never to contact the girl again. ya la pun kan, making out in the toilet!!!!! if thats not the ultimate in being disturbingly sneaky and sleazy i dont know what is!! and because of this outrageous behaviour, the girl's mom tried grilling AH and me about the previous outing. wtf? its her own daughter she should be grilling, not us. yes, it sure is a sorry mess but sad to say, this sorta thing just dont happen overnite. maybe she just wasnt reading the signs right. dunno, but i certainly dont envy her position. its indeed a mom's worse nightmare. semoga diberi hidayah bersama.

There has to be a certain amount of trust but its so freaking disturbing when that line is crossed.