Finding balance

Life IS a balancing act..... and its mostly about finding the right equilibrium.

I've always been close with the kiddoes. and with the sort of medical history they've had, how could i not be? not for them the usual flu & fever. naaaaahh... add VSD/hypertension (AF), embolism/infarcts (AI), spinal tabs (AH) and the picture becomes that much clearer and more complete.

For them it also meant growing up in a rather protected and secure environment. i couldnt help but be a 'little' paranoid especially in matters concerning their health and even tho i liked the idea of having super independent kids, i wasnt all that eager to let go. to me they were like time-bombs just waiting to explode... anything could happen and if something were to go wrong, i didnt want them out of my sight.

As they got older and their health gradually stabilized, they naturally expected more freedom. and i knew then that it was time. time for them to test their wings and fly.... but THEY had to help ME slowly let them go; THEY had to help ME see for myself they were able to manage..... by building up the trust in their ability to cope and handle life.

So now comes the question of, how much to let go and how fast? ooh the boyz are doing just fine, after they turned 18 they pretty much get to do what they want (all within reason of course lol). its AH that i'm a little unsure of. the reason being she's only 15 and even if she looks her age, she's actually quite matured in her approach to life, relationships and people in general. she has surprised me a couple of times with her insight and intuition where her bf is concerned, and the amount of self-control that she's showing in dealing with meddling exes and disturbing 'friends' is something that puts her in a different category altogether. thing is, i still see glimpses of my naive & innocent little baby so it gets to be a little contradictory at times.

She's obviously more matured than her bros so..
do i treat this as a serious relationship or is it just 'summer love'?
do i let it take its own course or put a curb to the obviously escalating feelings?
do i allow them time together? group dates? outings? and if so how often?
.. these are among the few questions thats been playing thru my mind.

I know i'm dealing with teenagers and even though they seem ok, i'm the 'sane adult' here so i guess i hafta be the one to look out for that balance.... that is until they're both that much 'older' :)

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