People tend to shy away from the subject. first thing that comes to mind is gila, mereng, nutcase, schizo..... but the state of our mental health is affected by a broad spectrum of conditions (read on). these days with the pressures of modern living and our 'cat eat cat doggie eat dog' world, many are trudging along in quiet desperation and some even slip & slide to the very edge of depression.
My eldest son has ADHD - attention deficit hyperactive disorder (he was also born with vsd aka hole-in-the-heart but we had it corrected when he was still a baby). in layman terms he is clinically hyperactive . alaaa... jenis yg berlari2 tak leh duduk diam tu xcept for him it was much much more. its quite normal for boys to act hyper but once it encroaches into the areas of their school performance, social life and personal growth, its probably more than just high spirits. it'll be a good idea to start monitoring the kid just in case he/she falls into that category because the going will get tougher. ADHD is something that you might not grow out of... more often than not one carries it into adulthood, like my son. back in the 80's it was almost unheard of here but people overseas were already having special programmes and such. kat sana it has even reached the point of abuse - and ramai yg gunakan ADHD as an excuse for bad parenting !!
Of course he doesnt run around like a mad camper anymore lol but his mind's still at full speed behind that calm exterior... he still has to actively fight sudden impulses since he doesnt possess that 'hey hold on a minute' switch to fall back to, still has to make sure boredom doesnt hit him 5 minutes into any new venture and still has to seek that inner strength when things start to get a little too overwhelming. its almost a daily battle but for now, we believe we have gotten over the worse.... back in his early teens, when the superhormones clashed head on with his adhd tendencies and he was desperate for acceptance, he admitted to seriously contemplating suicide. nauzubillah. even though he knew we were always there for him, there comes a time in a lad's life when he needs more than the unconditional love & acceptance of the family. its been an xtremely 'colourful' journey so far and if nothing else, it still holds the promise of continuing to be an interesting one.
Pls Lord bless this family and all others.
I'm reminded of the 'trying times' that has befallen my immediate neighbour. Almost 3 years ago, out of the blue their daughter was struck with hysteria. unfortunately, it has now sort of developed into schizophrenia. takde ribut takde hujan tiba2 saja and it couldnt have happened to a more stable & waraq family. they are the kind of people who welcomes anyone to their home for their monthly usrah & quranic reading sessions.
I remember her as this sweet, easy going girl. who would've thought that a simple college expedition could trigger such a horrific nightmare? there are times when all is quiet but there are also periods of time where she'll start screaming & singing at the top of her lungs. my heart aches for her everytime she goes thru that phase. incidentally, it also marks the time AI would con us into sleeping with him lol (or he with us) because his bedroom overlook hers and i guess the noise can get rather disturbing at times, especially when its the middle of the nite. still, compared to the suffering of her family & siblings, its a small inconvenience. how their home must be a pressure pot sometimes.
Makes me think of 'beautiful mind'. i digress but i've always thought that genius bordered close to madness. its a fine thin line and the possibility of crossing over is so great. i mean the power of the mind is limitless and if unleashed completely, i dont think one can really handle all that brain power. klu tak berhati2 nikmat yang Allah beri kekadang tak terbawa dek manusia. blessed is the person who finds the key to balance & harmony.
Ku panjatkan doa pada MU ... semoga KAU rahmati & berkatilah kehidupan kami semua.
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Abe oh abe, just one more day ... izinkan aku melayan kepoyoran ku heheh.
Ingin ku pandang wajahmu
Di setiap ketika
Tiada jemu biarpun terluka
Ingin dibelai selalu
Bagaikan waktu dulu
Rasa bahagia dalam dakapanmu
Ku rindu
Wajah dan senyumanmu
Memberikan cahaya
Di dalam setiap mimpi-mimpiku
Kau pergi
Membawa hati ini
Tinggalkan ku sendiri
Dalam sepi
Lafazkan cinta dari bibirmu
Ingin ku dengar sekali lagi
Lafazkan dari hati tulus dan suci
Serahkan cinta abadi
Oh bisikan rindu nada nan syahdu
Pintaku yang terakhir darimu
Pintaku hanya satu
Usah kau berlalu
* as crooned by dayang nurlatiffa.. eh eh, nurfaizah ;)
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** Running Update **
1 lap= about 4 km= 30 mins
I'm not handling the heat very well. its never this hardgoing in the mornings. anyhoo i did complete my routine but just thinking about an xtra lap made me want to bawl my head off lol it must be the age factor. plus the external heat combined with the internal heat to make me feel like a mobile furnace... ughhh.
It was an ok run but on days like this i'm starting to doubt my ability to finish the 7 km at putrajaya within the given time. oohh i would so love to have that cert hanging on my bedroom wall lol !!!!!
6 comments:
redkebaya, my niece's son is also suffering from this mild condition. she has blogged abt it. pls go to www.anedra.blogspot.com
and another blogger - www.atenah.blogspot.com is doing a study in this area and Insyaallah when she is finished she will devote her time and energy and knowldege in this area.
But I am sure your love and devotion has helped tremendously and I salute mothers like you.
alaa KT we all try to manage our lot the best we can :) for me i get tested through my kids, especially dolu masa kecik2 tapi dugaan2 ni laa yg create strong bonds.
and thanks for pushing me in the right direction. will certainly check out the blogs u mentioned :)
hi redkebaya. i'm kakteh's niece, the one she mentioned in her comment. my son is suffering frm some development delay, initially diagnosed as ADHD, now it's neither somewhere here nor there since he's not showing full or enough symptoms of ADHD / autism etc ..Anyways, u've given me and him hope. Hopefully, we'll sort this out somehow, insyaallah, ya? Thanks a bunch!
anedra... ya insyallah HE'll show us the way :)
and actually if ur anywhere in the klang valley there's a great support group for family with ADHD & other LD's. i havent been there for a while but they used to be quite active - they arranged talks by docs, psychiatrists, psychologists, caunsellors, pharmacists etc and we also get to meet the other parents. only prob was, the timing.. selalunya masa kerja.
its somewhere in damansara, a little further up one utama.. cant seem to find their card from my 'bottomless' handbag right now lol but will post the contact no. once i do.
salam red kebaya, its me atenah. yes this is my field. it would be nice to hear more about your son in yr blog. salam perkenalan
welcome atenah... i love what you're doing and when you do come home, it'll mean another much needed professional in the field, yay :) we need more people here to handle such things. back in the 80's nobody really picked up my son's condition sbab on top of ADHD he was also considered gifted. we had to do a lot of groping in the dark... and at times it was really pitch black lol
all the best in what ur doing :)
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